Monthly Archives: August 2014

Please Stop Trying to Psychoanalyze Me!!

Yeah, I am not a normal person. I have short, passion-filled, exciting relationships–more like flings. I get it. The sex will be good, we’ll become good friends, but in the end, you will either want to screw me for life (even when you get your new man) or you will hate my guts. Seemingly intelligent, rational women will turn psycho on my ass. They will stalk me. They will call my mother. I, in turn, depending on how we break up–will whip your new man’s ass every time I see y’all together. It’s the nature of dealing with the type of guy that I am.

No, I am not a cheater. I don’t scream at or mistreat my women. I won’t use you or invade your space, nor will I accuse you of sleeping with other men or go through your phone. When you threaten to leave me, I will actually breathe a sigh of relief. It’s almost like I expect my relationships not to work, so when they don’t–they don’t hurt.

There are many like us, people who are strongly desired who will crave you back. We are often accused of things we don’t do and thoughts we don’t have. No, I am not checking out your sister. No, my client has zero chance of sleeping with me. At the same time, the more you get angry at me, and make me (quietly) angry at you, you’re going to seal our doom. I live off adrenaline, I make bad decision, and this is just how I am. My old ass is 45 and I’ll probably always be this way. What will it take to hold me down? I wish I knew. But I know that there are some things that will send me away, and I always communicate what they are. One of the worst things you can do with a guy who’s been married 7 times is threaten to break up with me and think it will make our relationship stronger. Let’s start with that one thing.

All I ask for is reciprocation.

So, I had a lady from years back I was dating. Strangely enough, she was my pediatrician when I was a child and I ran into her as an adult at the gym and we dated for a few years. I took this test and she used the results against me every chance she had. That shit was not fun. Recently, I dated another medical professional who asked me to do the same test. Again, she kept referring to the test to tell me what I was going to do, what I was thinking, and what I wanted to do. We didn’t last nearly as long as the last one. Today, a friend of mine asked me to take this damn test again lol (no, we’re not dating) I have no idea if the results are the same as the last two times I took it…

I thought I would share the results with my readers. Maybe whatever is within these lines will help you understand the stuff that’s in my articles and my poetry. Enjoy! And that’s for visiting my blog!

ENFJ Description

by Joe Butt

ENFJs are the benevolent ‘pedagogues’ of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it’s usually not meant as manipulation — ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.

ENFJs are global learners. They see the big picture. The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. Many ENFJs have tremendous entrepreneurial ability.

ENFJs are, by definition, Js, with whom we associate organization and decisiveness. But they don’t resemble the SJs or even the NTJs in organization of the environment nor occasional recalcitrance. ENFJs are organized in the arena of interpersonal affairs. Their offices may or may not be cluttered, but their conclusions (reached through feelings) about people and motives are drawn much more quickly and are more resilient than those of their NFP counterparts.

ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.

TRADEMARK: “The first shall be last”

This refers to the open-door policy of ENFJs.One ENFJ colleague always welcomes me into his office regardless of his own circumstances. If another person comes to the door, he allows them to interrupt our conversation with their need. While discussing that need, the phone rings and he stops to answer it. Others drop in with a ‘quick question.’ I finally get up, go to my office and use the call waiting feature on the telephone. When he hangs up, I have his undivided attention!

(ENFJ stands for Extravert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging and represents individual’s preferences in four dimensions characterising personality type, according to Jung’s and Briggs Myers’ theories of personality type.)

Your Type Preferences

Extravert(1%) iNtuitive(62%) Feeling(25%) Judging(1%)

Because you appear to have marginal or no (1%) preference of Extraversion over Introversion, marginal or no (1%) preference of Judging over Perceiving, characteristics of more than one personality type may apply to you:


Functional Analysis Of The ENFJ

Based on Jung’s framework of mental functions – by Joe Butt

Extraverted Feeling

Extraverted Feeling rules the ENFJ’s psyche. In the sway of this rational function, these folks are predisposed to closure in matters pertaining to people, and especially on behalf of their beloved. As extraverts, their contacts are wide ranging. Face-to-face relationships are intense, personable and warm, though they may be so infrequently achieved that intimate friendships are rare.

Introverted iNtuition

Like their INFJ cousins, ENFJs are blessed through introverted intuition with clarity of perception in the inner, unconscious world. Dominant Feeling prefers to find the silver lining in even the most beggarly perceptions of those in their expanding circle of friends and, of course, in themselves. In less balanced individuals, such mitigation of the unseemly eventually undermines the ENFJ’s integrity and frequently their good name. In healthier individuals, deft use of this awareness of the inner needs and desires of others enables this astute type to win friends, influence people, and avoid compromising entanglements.

The dynamic nature of their intuition moves ENFJs from one project to another with the assurance that the next one will be perfect, or much more nearly so than the last. ENFJs are continually looking for newer and better solutions to benefit their extensive family, staff, or organization.

Extraverted Sensing

Sensing is extraverted. ENFJs can manage details, particularly those necessary to implement the prevailing vision. These data have, however, a magical flexible quality. Something to be bought can be had for a song; the same something is invaluable when it’s time to sell. (We are not certain, but we suspect that such is the influence of the primary function.) This wavering of sensory perception is made possible by the weaker and less mature status with which the tertiary is endowed.

Introverted Thinking

Introverted Thinking is least apparent and most enigmatic in this type. In fact, it often appears only when summoned by Feeling. At times only in jest, but in earnest if need be, Thinking entertains as logical only those conclusions which support Feeling’s values. Other scenarios can be shown invalid or at best significantly inferior. Such “Thinking in the service of Feeling” has the appearance of logic, but somehow it never quite adds up.

Introverted Thinking is frequently the focus of the spiritual quest of ENFJs. David’s lengthiest psalm, 119, pays it homage. “Law,” “precept,” “commandment,” “statute:” these essences of inner thinking are the mysteries of Deity for which this great Feeler’s soul searched.

Famous ENFJs

by Joe Butt

David, King of Israel
U.S. Presidents:

  • Abraham Lincoln
  • Ronald Reagan
  • Barack Obama

William Cullen Bryant, poet
Abraham Maslow, psychologist and proponent of self-actualization
Ross Perot
Sean Connery
Elizabeth Dole
Francois Mitterand
Dick Van Dyke
Andy Griffith
James Garner
William Aramony, former president of United Way
Gene Hackman (Superman, Antz)
Dennis Hopper (Speed)
Brenda Vaccaro
Craig T. Nelson (Coach)
Diane Sawyer (Good Morning America)
Randy Quaid (Bye Bye, Love; Independence Day)
Tommy Lee Jones (The Fugitive)
Kirstie Alley (“Cheers,” Look Who’s Talking movies)
Michael Jordan, NBA basketball player
Johnny Depp (Pirates of the Caribbean)
Oprah Winfrey
Bob Saget America’s Funniest Home Videos, Full House
Julia Louis-Dreyfus (“Seinfeld”)
Ben Stiller (The Royal Tenenbaums)
Peyton Manning, Indianapolis Colts quarterback
Matthew McConaughey (The Wedding Planner)
Pete Sampras, Tennis Champion
Lauren Graham (“Gilmore Girls”)
Ben Affleck (The Sum Of All Fears)
John Cusack (High Fidelity)

Fictional ENFJs:

Joe Hackett, Wings

Typology of Westeros: personality types of the characters from A Song of Ice and Fire fantasy novel series (you may have seen its Game of Thrones TV adaptation).


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