Top 8 Things Holding Back the Black Man, part IV (Da Hood)

This violation is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves about our young people. Do you ever notice how our people will latch on to the worst shit that comes out, and when something good comes out–we don’t respond to it? Why is that? Our young people deem it cool to be assholes. They think being from prison is somehow “real”. They think there is something wrong with them if they excel at anything but sports and entertainment–but it has to be the right sport and the right entertainment. We wanna be rich, but we want to “keep it real” by repping the hood.

This is what I said in the original installment of this series:

We aspire to be second-class peasants.  We are an entertainment generation, and we will subject our children to be raised by music and media in the effort to pursue more “stuff”. Yes, our juvenile courts are full of the best-dressed, most affluent, wannabe gangstas ever. These courts are not full of kids selling drugs to feed their kids. They are full of kids who want to act like gangsters. They are suburbanite children who wish they were from the “hood”. Why is it that our parents want to act rich, but the kids want to act poor? It’s so bad, that we look at educated, articulate, well-mannered men as “square”, and then we say that our less educated, rough-mannered men have an “edge” and therefore more attactive. And what happened to the gangsta rap generation of the 90s? Well, some finished college and got jobs and are now raising middle-class thugs and hoes. Others are the single moms and dads who are raising lower-class thugs and hoes. Someone once said that I am hiding my children from the streets by keeping them in the mosque. You’re damned right.  Some people just don’t get it; we have everything we need to elevate ourselves, but most of us would just rather stay in the ghetto.

It is said that the Negro is easy to lead astray, and difficult to lead to the right path. Give a brotha a choice between a good, stable job, or a marginal life with partying and women–and he will choose the low life every time. Give a sister a chance to take an ex con with a nice body or a decent looking working man, and for some reason she wants to have the ex con. And I *know* you’ve seen this:  A “good” school with an accelerate program or the high school on the other side of town in Da Hood, and he will choose Crenshaw High. Every damn time. Somebody been watching too much “Juice in Da Hood”, or whatever the fuck that movie was called.  This is just amazing.

Like I said, I don’t claim to have all the answers. But I do have some suggestions.

First of all, it must start with us. We have to understand that whatever state our people are in–our children screwing up, our women choosing piece a shit men over getting married, our men trying to club all the way into their 50s trying to score some boodie–it’s OUR. DAMN. FAULT. So it is up to us to fix it. We can start by deciding, right here, right now, that we want better for us and our children. You must begin every endeavor with a statement of intention, and possibly a mission statement.

The Mission Statement:

Your mission statement is a declaration of your purpose, your mission, your values, your strengths, and your plan to achieve all goals.

It doesn’t have to be super-detailed or complicated. When I meet young brothers and sisters and I plan to lecture them, I usually ask the following question: “Where do you see yourself in ten years? What kind of life do you want to live? What will you do to achieve those goals? Do you believe that what you’re doing right now–the way you’re living, and the things you’re doing–will get you there?”

My brothers and sisters, where do you see yourself in ten years?

What kind of life do you want to live?

What do you plan to do to achieve those goals?

Do you believe that what you’re doing right now–the way you’re living and the things you’re doing–will get you there?

Now, put those answers together in form of a statement. “In ten years, I plan to be married with a full-time business (possibly several) and all my children under one roof. I want to own a home, have a good income through my businesses, my children should have a problem-free childhood and loving life, and a great relationship with my spouse. We will be spiritually grounded and physically healthy. Children will be well-behaved with good grades. I have a two year plan to get me to the next level, and this is what I plan to do to achieve those goals: Step A, Step B, Step C, Step D…”

That, my brothers and sisters, is a mission statement. You should have it memorized, and have it written all over the place. Your children should know it. Your wife/husband should know it and be in full agreement. You should do nothing that distracts you from that goal, and everything you do should be in support of that goal. Baby, you’re going to be busy. You must be driven and near obsessive about it. No time for garbage, and things that waste time. And most of all, your children must be on board with it.

Notice, I haven’t said anything about Da Hood yet.

Yeah, I haven’t. They didn’t get Ghetto Fab overnight, and they sure ain’t going to get Smart overnight. But how are we going to enact a plan to fix this bullshit when you don’t have a plan to climb out of the shithole we call “Niggadumb” that we’ve been living in since the early 90s?

Stay tuned, family. And take notes.

Thanks for visiting my blog.

 

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3 responses to “Top 8 Things Holding Back the Black Man, part IV (Da Hood)

  1. Hi there, I agree with what you are saying. I am white but I think too many people sell themselves short, especially black people. I think the main reason is that their is absolutely no accountability. There are far too many single parent households so the kids have no real family structure and more importantly, no sound discipline. Couple that with growing up in the ghetto and you statistically are not going far.

    There are many factors in this but I believe the biggest enemy black people face is themselves. There are too many leaders and politicians placing blame everywhere else but on the individual. Blaming racism for everything under the sun. It has to stop! Racism is a threat but many times not a reality in certain situations. Racism can be found if you go looking but it shouldn’t be the goal of a young person with career goals. Your focus should be on the goal not the obstacle. And too many people are looking for reasons NOT to succeed instead of the biggest reason they should-they are worth it.

    Lack of accountability and responsibility are what are keeping a young black child from becoming anything they want to be. Instead of excuses not to fulfill their dreams they should think of the reasons why not.

    It is much easier to be a victim than to humble yourself and go out and accomplish. Think of the Jews, they have had some pretty bad things happen to them too but they go out and DO.

    The bible says that no weapon formed against us will prosper and racism is a weapon. So is poverty. The individual has the power to overcome and be successful but it takes humility.

    When more people start taking responsibility for their lives they will see the gifts that God has given them because they went out and worked hard unravel them.

    Focusing on the obstacle (racism, poverty, etc) will never get someone to a goal. Obstacles exist but they are merely stepping stones to the achiever.

    I want every individual to rise up and accomplish. We have only ourselves to blame if we choose not to succeed.

    For the record, I am a white male.

    Thanks

  2. Exactly my points. In fact, such a small number of leaders say it that those who do run the risk of offending the masses when they say it. A good example is Bill Cosby. This is a man who has *earned* the right to criticize by dropping as much money as he had on the community.

    On the flip side, we have another man–Louis Farrakhan–who will call racism when he sees it, but still calls Black men to task on our crime, our absence from our families, and our lack of sense of community. So how do we respond? “Well, he’s not a Christian.” But his organization their members have prospered without handouts and begging. He encourages three things: small business and support of those businesses, completing one’s education without lowering standards, and correcting deviant behavior.

    Thank you for the comment, I agree completely.

  3. You are right. Black people like Cosby or some in political office who tell young blacks to take responsibility get criticized. Some of the leaders like Sharpton and Jackson and many liberals are doing a huge disservice to the youth. Teaching them to hate society and rise up against it. It is sad.

    I think a good start for the youth would be to just start dressing like they are serious about success. When they show up for an interview dressed like thugs they are not gonna get hired. Then they say it is racism. Well I wouldn’t hire my brother if he dressed like a thug or punk.

    If they start taking themselves seriously, society will too. This goes for all people.

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